So I am at a discipline loss with my lovely little Malia. The above picture is the response I get from her 46% of the time when I ask her to do or not do something. The remaining 54% of the time I get a finger pointed at me and a firm "NO!" We are trying time out. I have a little chair set up in the hallway and I set a timer for 1 minute. The girl thinks it's great! I put her there twice yesterday and she was content as could be, swinging her little legs, sitting ever so nicely. If only I could get that composure during sacrament! They tell me persistence is the key, so we'll keep trying time out. She hasn't responded to any other method of discipline either. Sometimes she is just so mean! Especially when it comes to playing with other kids. We have play group every Thursday and she is a brute! She is the smallest one there and the biggest bully. She pushes around 3 year olds and is constantly telling everyone "No"! There is one little girl that cries at the sight of Malia! How embarassing. We've concluded that she only behaves this way when I'm around. How flattering! When she was with Dianne and Lori, she was well behaved. As soon as I show up, she gets naughty. What's a girl to do?? As long as she is recieving undivided attention, she is an angel. She really is lots of fun, most of the time. I just want to make sure I am doing all that I can. I realize that some of it is just part of her temperment. Others have suggested a lot of it has to do with her being the oldest and the only child currently. Regardless, am I wrong to expect more? I realize she is only 18 months. However, I want her to learn to be respectful and well, NICE!
Friday, February 1, 2008
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So I am at a discipline loss with my lovely little Malia. The above picture is the response I get from her 46% of the time when I ask her to do or not do something. The remaining 54% of the time I get a finger pointed at me and a firm "NO!" We are trying time out. I have a little chair set up in the hallway and I set a timer for 1 minute. The girl thinks it's great! I put her there twice yesterday and she was content as could be, swinging her little legs, sitting ever so nicely. If only I could get that composure during sacrament! They tell me persistence is the key, so we'll keep trying time out. She hasn't responded to any other method of discipline either. Sometimes she is just so mean! Especially when it comes to playing with other kids. We have play group every Thursday and she is a brute! She is the smallest one there and the biggest bully. She pushes around 3 year olds and is constantly telling everyone "No"! There is one little girl that cries at the sight of Malia! How embarassing. We've concluded that she only behaves this way when I'm around. How flattering! When she was with Dianne and Lori, she was well behaved. As soon as I show up, she gets naughty. What's a girl to do?? As long as she is recieving undivided attention, she is an angel. She really is lots of fun, most of the time. I just want to make sure I am doing all that I can. I realize that some of it is just part of her temperment. Others have suggested a lot of it has to do with her being the oldest and the only child currently. Regardless, am I wrong to expect more? I realize she is only 18 months. However, I want her to learn to be respectful and well, NICE!
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What a pistol!! Olivia hasnt learned the "no" word yet and I am not looking forward to the day when she does!!
Cameron tells me that Olivia is only a brat when I am around. I don't know why kids do that to their mommies.
We have a time out discipline that seems to work pretty well for Olivia. When she is put in time out, I put her in the corner make her face the wall, and I stand right behind her so she cant move away..she gets so mad, she hates it. So, when I tell her time out, she usually starts listening.
Good luck, she is adorable!
That is too funny! She's just so sweet looking.
I bought a pink tutu with pink cowboy hat I want
to photograph her in. IF she'll cooperate.
She is so cute... You're doing a good job, and she will get it eventually. Who would have thought disciplining a little one would be so hard? Caleb's been telling me, "No, Mama... Don't fight" I have no idea where he got that. He even says it when I ask him if he needs his diaper changed. Crazy kids!
Well, she LOOKS cute. Oh, honey you're doing fine. Just keep being consistent EVERY time FOREVER and she will be a model citizen. HAHA. Wouldn't it be nice if it were just as EASY to DO?
Motherhood only looks simple from the outside looking in.
Hey Amanda! It's Hillary! Both my kids have enjoyed time out in the beginning so I think you're right - consistency is they key! Sometimes they still make lemonade out of lemons & I wonder if they even care that they're in time out, but most times they're upset about it, which lets me know they're being sufficiently punished! :)
We women are too hard on ourselves. I have no experience with toddlers yet but am not looking forward to it. Maybe you should call Super Nanny or Dr. Phil. Try to hang in there and don't slit your wrists! Ha, ha.
it's so fun isn't it. be grateful that she is an angle with others. porter used to be that way, but no more. luckily eliza still is. let's see how james turns out.
Done this a few times, you have a healthy, thriving child. This is NORMAL. They are always better for everyone else and then they punish you when you get back. Take it as she is so comfortable with you that she can let you see her at her worst and trusts you to still love her. They always have issues with older kids. Especially oldest children. They all want to be in charge. ; ) You're doing fine. Just wait until she becomes a teenager and she visits this stage again, only with the added fun of hormones. It's true. Teens are 1-3 yr olds on stilts.
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